And I wish I could report back that it has gotten better, but… if anything, it’s a bit worse.
We still put William down around 8 PM. We still keep the bathroom light on. Still keep the hall light on. Still keep his fish tank light on. And yes, we still get the “Mommy” and “Daddy” screams about
1500 15 times before he finally falls asleep around 11 PM.
No joke, 11 PM. Watch my face – 😯
And then Tuesday night as I was tucking Alexander into his crib and giving him a kiss goodnight he said to me, “I sleep with Mommy?”
First my heart melted because he has never said this to me before… it’s only been William who asks to sleep between Mommy and Daddy.
So I said to Alexander, “Oh honey… it’s time for sleepy. You sleep in here with your blankies and binkie.”
He started to cry. Not a little cry. A huge, honking, body-shaking cry. He NEVER does this at bedtime. NEVER.
So I hugged him and walked around his room with him and finally got him calm. Then as I went to lay him back down in his crib he started screaming again. And then he said it:
First I had to make sure I was definitely holding Alexander, and not William, at that moment. Then he said it again:
Since it was 8:30 PM and I still had a ton of work to get done – so even if I had wanted to, I couldn’t have gone to bed yet – I said the words that have changed my life this week:
“Do you want to sleep with William?”
A HUGE grin spread across his face, following by a “Yes!”
William was happy to see him because he was scared, too, that night. And Alexander was happy to be in there because he just loooves to be with his big brother (or “bruddah” as he says).
Matt and I sat on the bottom of the stairs for a few minutes that night, listening to them talk and laugh and (yes, of course…) even brother-fight a little.
So now, for the past 3 nights, they have wanted to sleep together. I told Matt the other night, maybe we should just put them in the same room for good?
William has the biggest bedroom (of the kids) in the house, plenty big enough for 2. And we do want to have another baby eventually, so 2 of them will have to double up at some point anyway. So maybe it’s worth just doing it now, before they get older and more territorial.
After all, we’ve been “scared-free” for the past 3 nights now that they’ve been in the same room. Maybe it’s time to double up for good!