For today’s mama-find post I was fortunate enough to review the book Mothers Need Time-outs, Too by Susan Callahan, Anne Nolen and Katrin Schumann.
It changed my way of thinking. Completely.
I’m one of those women who really think they can “do it all.” I have tons of energy (even pregnant). My mind is always going with business things, family things, friend things, world things and home things. It’s just the way I am, always have been, always will be.
But after becoming a mother, one thing changed dramatically that even I didn’t “see.”
I wasn’t taking any time for ME. Really ME. Audrey things.
Yes, I guess I thought it was being selfish to do girlfriend things or go shopping (one of my passions) or going out to dinner with just Matt or working out in the evenings or… honestly, doing anything for myself or by myself.
I have not felt this tremendous VOID in my life in the past 3 1/2 years. Quite the contrary, I feel more full and satisfied and complete than ever before… but it wasn’t until I truly realized that I have STOPPED doing most of the things that I used to love doing before I became a mother – did my eyes open.
So I have taken some “time-outs” this past 2 weeks. And I feel better than ever.
I have started swimming again. I went to the library last week – by myself – and lost myself for an hour in the books. I went out on a date with Matt and we laughed and joked all night – like we were this couple courting each other again! I even went shopping last night for some maternity clothes and started looking (gasp!) at the summer “regular” clothes.
These “time-outs” allowed me to rejuvenate myself. To be in a store without worrying about anything other than… dare I say it, myself!
This is a whole new world for me.
One that I intend to embrace. It will make me a better mother because I’m fulfilling needs and desires that I didn’t even know I craved.
Thank you Susan, Anne and Katrin.
It’s about time I had a good “time-out.”
What about you?!